how to become a swinger

Swingers have been around for centuries, and getting started in the "lifestyle" comes with lots of questions. We've compiled the top five steps on how to become swingers for couples, single males, single female (unicorns) and anything in between!

Step 1:

The first step to becoming a swinger is to make sure this is something both of you are certain you want to try. It is essential to be open and honest with each other, and if either of you has any doubts before trying the lifestyle then wait until you are comfortable or do a little more research to get a better understanding of what being a swinger entails. For single males and females, you may want to research the benefits and disadvantages of joining the lifestyle.

Step 2:

The second step is to sign up with a swinger's lifestyle website. Swinger's websites are similar to dating apps, where you have the opportunity to discover other swinger couples and unicorns and chat with experienced swingers from around the world. The best part about these sites is that you can ask members the questions and concerns you may have about becoming a swinger without judgement. The members on these adult dating sites will give you honest and truthful answers which can help put your mind at rest. You can also make friends with fellow swingers and chat regularly to find out if becoming a swinger is right for you and your partner. Finding and connecting with fellow swingers is a crucial part of your journey into the lifestyle. Swinger websites also feature events, parties, and speed dating to help you discover ways to meet couples and get started in the lifestyle.If you are interested in joining a FREE swinger's website, click here.

Step 3:

The third step is to develop a set of "rules" that will help you to set boundaries in the bedroom. Couples find it easier to connect when there are specific rules that are in place. For example, you and your partner may decide that you are a full swap couple that prefers to play in the same room or may choose to be a soft swap couple who only engages in kissing, foreplay, and oral sex. Whatever the rules are that you and your partner decide on are specific to your needs and desires.

Step 4:

Step four is to plan a date night with another couple or find a swinger event that you would like to attend. This is a great way to spend time with each other, mingle together, and this will let you decide if you want to take things forward or not. If you do not feel comfortable meeting up one on one with another couple, you can either attend a party where the environment is usually less pressure, and everyone spends time socializing and getting to know each other. Or the other option is to participate in a meet and greet or visit a swinger's club to introduce yourself to the swinger environment slowly. You can think of it as getting your feet wet.

Step 5:

The fifth step is to begin enjoying your journey in the swinger lifestyle! Once you have decided to move forward and join the lifestyle, it is time to loosen up, let your hair down and enjoy the moment! Remember that everyone gets nervous and takes time to warm up, but once you get past the initial nerves, the feelings take over, and the enjoyment consumes you. You will gain confidence and make new friends with each new experience.

Entering the swinger lifestyle can be fearful and intimidating. You should know that you are not alone, and although you may meet many seasoned professionals, there are plenty of new beginners as well. Use these five steps to help guide you into a new chapter of your life. Meeting new people and exploring all that the lifestyle has to offer is an invigorating experience. You can feel confident knowing that the swinger community is one of the least judgmental communities around. We are a bunch of fun-loving, sexy time enjoying, open-minded group of people that love getting together and learning more about our fellow swingers. The low-pressure environment allows you and your partner to ease into it. Everyone has to start somewhere, and we are glad you found our list of the top five steps to becoming a swinger.

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